Edmonton Psychologist | Conflict is Normal
Meeting with an Edmonton psychologist does not have to be a scary experience. You might just need another set of eyes to look at how you are handling conflict in relationships. The good news is you can have a free 15 minute consult with an Everton psychologist if you phone rediscover psychological services. There is no referral that is needed and you can see this Edmonton psychologist in many different ways. We have three locations for you to choose from which offer in person, virtual or telephone appointments.
An affordable Edmonton psychologist is just a phone call away. At rediscover psych we want to help you rediscover yourself and rediscover your connections. We offer individual therapy, couples therapy and family therapy.
When couples come into see us there usually is showing some conflict issues in their relationship. We do not try to resolve this conflict for them but rather help them with their communication skills. We offer many strategies to help them through this conflict so that it does not just get buried and ultimately lead to a divorce. The three main causes of divorce are conflict, irretrievable breakdown in the relationship and arguing.
There are many common mistakes when it comes to dealing with conflict and we want you to be aware of them so that you can redirect your relationship and make it healthier. One of the first mistakes that most people make in conflict is letting it go without talking about it. They tend to avoid any sort of confrontation and the conflict gets swept under the rug and never dealt with. The problem with this is that the same argument and issue comes back again over and over again.
When you come into see us at rediscover we help you dig to find out what is underneath the conflict and help you to understand the value systems that are in play in your relationship and on an individual level. We help you come to a negotiation or compromise and meet in the middle.
Trying to fix the other person or trying to change their perspective is the second most common mistake when it comes to dealing with conflict in a relationship. What this looks like is butting heads because of differing opinions and perspectives. You have a 50% chance or less to change the other person’s perspective. Instead of trying to change the other person we help you flesh out your point of view for each person in the relationship so that you can get an understanding for the other person’s perspective.
Another mistake that couples make when dealing with conflict is raising their voice in the middle of it. This is a uncomfortable feeling for the other person intends to make them become defensive. For some reason we think that if we raise our voice that we will be heard and understood better but that does not go very well in a relationship. This causes the other person to go into a fight or fight back mode.
Edmonton Psychologist | An Effective Conflict Strategy
If you have been spinning your wheels trying to figure out how to do relationships better it might be time to meet with an Edmonton psychologist. The good news is you can take advantage of a free 15 minute consult with an Edmonton psychologist to decide if it is the right fit. At rediscover psych we have many trained professionals that can meet with you in person, virtually or over the phone. An affordable Edmonton psychologist is only a phone call away.
At rediscover psych we want to help you rediscover yourself and rediscover your connection. We help individuals, couples and families make better connections with each other. We have three locations to serve you better. We will even give you a free copy of a resiliency toolkit.
Many couples come in to meet with us to work through their conflict issues. We do not solve the conflict for them but rather help them with their communication by offering them strategies to use. Our goal is to help you live an abundant and vibrant life with purpose. We want this for the individual but also in your relationships. Because divorce is at such a high rate we offer a lot of couples workshops and therapy. Some of the most common causes of divorce are conflict, irretrievable breakdown in the relationship and arguing. Most couples make the same mistakes when it comes to working through conflict.
The first common mistake that people make in relationships around conflict is letting it go without talking about the argument or conflict. One or both tend to avoid this situation so they do not have to deal with their partner’s reaction. It could be a scary moment to speak up or it could be uncomfortable or you could feel like it is knocking to help anyway. What tends to happen is the argument comes around again and again and it never gets taken care.
The issue is not to find a resolution to the conflict to make it go away but rather to dig deep to see what is underneath the argument. What we do is help the couple understand the value systems that are at the individual level and at the couple level. Because we have two different perspectives coming together it can be hard to meet in the middle so we help couples negotiate and compromise to do that.
In a relationship you might think that you need to change your partners perspective and therefore you end up butting heads on differing point of views. You might try to fix the other person so that they are more like you but that is not a good solution to conflicts that is just causing more problems. Everyone is unique and it should stay that way that is why we were attracted to the person in the first place for their uniqueness. What we do instead is have each person flesh out their point of view and have each partner step into the other partner’s point of view to get an idea of how they feel.