Edmonton Psychologist | Conflict Doesn’t Have to Be Scary
If you have ever been worried about the future of your relationship because you always seem to have conflict it is time to sit down with in Edmonton psychologist. At rediscover psych we can help you with individual therapy, couples therapy and family therapy. We treat things like anxiety, depression, and PTSD. We also address the common relationship mishaps that cause divorce. There are three different locations to serve you and no referral is needed to see in Edmonton psychologist. We even offer you a free 15 minute consult.
You can come in person, virtually or have a telephone appointment with an affordable Edmonton psychologist. It is time to rediscover yourself and rediscover your connections by connecting with rediscover psych.
If you have been having doubts about the future of your relationship it is time to make some changes and change the trajectory of that relationship. The three most common causes of divorce or conflict, irretrievable breakdown in the relationship and arguing. We find that when couples come in their showing issues with conflict and we help by offering to medication strategies. There are five common mistakes around conflict and we want to help you move through those and pass them so that you will have the tools for success.
The first mistake being made is letting go of the conflict without talking about it or dealing with it. A lot of partners are worried to experience the spouses reaction in a conflict and so they do not speak up when it is time to work through the argument. This can become the same argument over and over again because it is never dealt with in the first place. It is not about finding a resolution to this but rather a negotiation or compromise or values are being respected and adhered to.
Trying to fix the other person or change their perspective is another common mistake the couples make. Instead of trying to change the other person which does not work more than 50% of the time anyway we ask partners to suspend their own point of view for a moment in time. We asked them to take on their partners perspectives of the gate gain a better understanding and hope for their relationship.
If you are finding that you are raising your voice a lot in your conflict you are making another mistake in your relationship. Usually the other person becomes defensive and it can cause them to going to fight or flight mode. This is not a healthy approach to dealing with conflict in a relationship.
If you are calling your partner names or putting them them down or their friends and family when you are falling into another trap of conflict done wrong. Being sarcastic is what Gottman calls contempt in the relationship. If you are scoffing at your partner this can create emotional damage over time and a loss of admiration and respect. We help you by giving a gentle startup to build upon backup in your relationship.
Edmonton Psychologist | Build The Bond
If you would like to rediscover yourself but do not know how you can always sit down with an Edmonton psychologist. At rediscover psych we offer you a free 15 minute consult with an Edmonton psychologist. We offer in person, virtual or telephone appointments with an affordable Edmonton psychologist. We can help treat anxiety, depression and PTSD. There is no referral needed and we have three locations to serve you best.
Many couples come into CS because there trying to salvage their relationship before it is too late. There are three common reasons for divorce and they are conflict, irretrievable breakdown in the relationship and arguing. When it comes to conflict there are some common mistakes that are made around dealing with it in a relationship. We help couples move through their conflict issues by offering communication strategies.
One of the first mistakes that most couples make is that they let the conflict go without talking about it. They want to avoid the spouses reaction so they just pretend that the conflict is not there and move on with their day. However this always comes back around is another argument with the same outcome. We do not resolve the conflict for the couple but rather help them move through a negotiation or compromise to be able to come together and move forward. We take below the surface of the conflict and see what is lying underneath. This does not have to be scary but it is sometimes hard work.
If you are trying to fix the other person or change their perspective you are making another mistake in your relationship around conflict. You might be putting heads on differing perspectives and yet you will not have a very high success rate if you try to change the other person. Instead of trying to change the other person we asked you to flesh out your point of view and adopt the partner’s point of view for a moment. You will become a listener and can appreciate their different perspective while suspending your own point of view.
If you are raising your voice in the relationship to be heard and understood you probably found that this is an ineffective way to deal with conflict. This is actually also unhealthy because it causes the other person to become defensive and then they can go into a fight or flight mode.
If you are calling names or putting your partners friends and family down and being sarcastic Gottman calls this contempt. This is also an unhealthy way to approach conflict in your relationship and should be avoided. Scoffing creates emotional damage over time which leads to a loss of trust, respect, love and fondness. This is detrimental to your relationship. What we have the couple do is build back their bond by helping them to admire and respect the partner. We use a gentle startup approach but never avoid the conflict because that always leads to bigger emotions.