Edmonton Psychologist | Conflict Isn’t Bad
Seeing an Edmonton psychologist is as easy as making a call to rediscover psychology. We offer you a free 15 minute consult with an Edmonton psychologist to see how we can help you. You may be struggling with personal individual issues or ones in your relationship. Chances are if you are struggling in relationships you are probably struggling as an individual so we always start with individual work. We also offer couples therapy and family therapy.
We can help you rediscover yourself and rediscover your connections so that you live a vibrant full life that is happier and with purpose. At rediscover psych we offer in person, virtual or telephone appointments with an affordable Edmonton psychologist. No referral is needed and we have three locations to serve you best.
Couples often come in showing that they have conflict issues. We offer communication strategies to help them work through this. Having conflict in a relationship is not wrong just shows that you are human because we all have different points of view and those show up in the relationship pretty quickly. It is not the goal to try to make people the same so that you do not of conflict but rather to appreciate the other person and work through the conflict in a healthy way.
There are three reasons that most people get divorced and they are conflict, irretrievable breakdown in the relationship and arguing. What ends up happening in a relationship and around conflict is mistakes that are common across the board. A lot of people want to let it go when conflict arises instead of working through it. What ends up happening is an argument is revisited over and over again because it was never dealt with properly in the first place.
We help you uncover what is underneath the argument in conflict so that you can come to a negotiation or compromise in your relationship. We know that each person and even as a couple there are different value systems played out and we help you dig deep to find what those all are in how you can work together to find a compromise.
Trying to fix the other person or change their perspective does not work out very well and in fact it has less than 50% chance of success. There is usually a butting of heads because of the differing perspectives. We help the couple instead flesh out their point of view so that they can adopt the partners for a moment and suspend their own. We find that this helps couples understand each other better.
If you find yourself raising your voice to be heard or understood in the relationship you are probably finding no success without either because that is another mistake that couples make when it comes to conflict. What ends up happening is one partner becomes quite defensive and can cause them to go into a fight or flight mode and again the conflict is not work through and it just builds resentment.
Edmonton Psychologist | Truth About Conflict
When you call rediscover psychology for help you will be met with a free minute consultation with an Edmonton psychologist. With three locations to serve you best and we even offer in person, virtual or telephone appointments with an affordable Edmonton psychologist. We help you to rediscover yourself and rediscover your connections when you sit down with an Edmonton psychologist from our team. We offer individual therapy, couples therapy and family therapy. We treat anxiety, depression and PTSD and any other issues in your relationships.
There is no referral that is needed and we are just one phone call away to get started. Many couples come in because they are seeing that they have a lot of conflict issues and so we offer a lot of communication strategies to help them through that. There are three main reasons for divorce and we do not want you to be one of the statistics. That is why we help you overcome conflict which is one of the leading causes of divorce.
There are many mistakes that are made around conflict that are quite common. The first is many couples do not work through the conflict in the end up sweeping it under the rug and it does not ever get dealt with. What happens is the same argument comes up over and over again and get swept in the under the rug against just so you can avoid the spouses reaction. The point is not to find a resolution because conflict is normal and healthy in a relationship since we all have differing perspectives.
The focus should be on finding what is underneath the conflict in dealing with that. We do a deep dive with the couple to find out what their personal value systems are as well as their couples value system and help them come to a compromise or negotiation within the conflict.
When you try to fix the other person or try to change their perspective you end up just butting heads on differing perspectives this is not a healthy way to deal with conflict in a relationship. You might have a lesson at 50% chance of changing that perspective of your partner. Instead we help you flesh out the point of view and adopt the partner’s point of view for a moment while suspending your own perspective so that you can have a better understanding for your partner. This is a healthy way to deal with conflict.
Raising your voice in a conflict is not a healthy way to deal with it either. You might think that you will be heard and understood but it just ends up making the other person feel defensive. What happens after this is the person being yelled at tends to go into a fight or flight mode and nothing is dealt with in a healthy way. We want you to avoid the common mistakes when it comes to dealing with conflict so that you do not have an irretrievable breakdown in your relationship.